I don't know why I continually refer to my daughter as "baby girl" or "munchkin" on this blog. As soon as I decided to adopt, I got a name stuck in my head. My mom and I would refer to my future baby by this name. At the same time, however, I was always warning my mom that I didn't want to commit to a name until I saw my daughter. Well, as soon as I saw my referral picture, I knew. The name suited her perfectly. I considered other names just to be sensible, but no other name felt right.
When it came time to pick a middle name, I knew that I wanted to use part of her Vietnamese name. Now that I know that she was abandoned at the hospital at 3 days old, I wonder who gave her her name. But the truth is, it doesn't matter. It's the only name she has ever known and I want to honor that, as well as her culture. My daughter has 4 names. The first is her surname, then I assumed the next was her middle and the last two were her first name. What I thought was her middle name is Thi. This is a VERY COMMON Vietnamese middle name and in my daughter's case, it is really just a gender identifier. I finally decided to ask my agency what the caregivers call her. I was told that in addition to calling her "sweetie," "baby" and "honey," (which made me smile) they call her by her fourth name. As soon as I heard that, I knew that would be her middle name. So, here it is: