Tuesday, May 20, 2008

a word from cis

I just received a letter via email from CIS in HCMC.  Apparently they think I'm married because the letter was addressed to Mr & Mrs.  They actually referred to my daughter by name and got her name right.  Basically the letter says that they have still not reached an agreement with the hospital where Sadie was born so they are unable to complete the investigation.  It also goes on to say that it is their "utmost priority to resolve this issue and continue with the processing of" my case.  If that were true, I wouldn't be waiting 110 days for a determination.  My daughter would not be turning one year old sitting in an orphanage this weekend.

The letter ends by saying that they will "continue" to provide me with an update on my case.  This is the first I've heard from them since March 16th.  Then they ask that I wait 30 days before making an inquiry.  Sure, no problem.  I wouldn't want to bother them.

At least this letter was signed.  However, it is signed by someone who is supposedly out until June.  Whatever.  Several people that I know received this same letter last week so it really wasn't a surprise.  That doesn't make it any easier though.

The last 24 hours have been a complete roller coaster for me.  I was feeling pretty hopeful Sunday and Monday.  Then last night, just before going to bed, I read about a fellow blogger who got her travel approval quickly and I fell apart.  It hit me so hard.  I am genuinely happy for her, but why her and not me?  Then this morning, I learned that a family from my agency just received the initial Tu Du block letter last night.  How can there really be no progress in 2 months?  Are they even trying?  Now this.  I've cried more in the last 24 hours than I have in a while and it shows.  Everyone at work kept asking me if I was OK.  I actually had to lock my office door and just sob for a while today.  I guess I'm officially back to my dark place. 


Anonymous said...

They suck. Hugs.

Sue and Mark said...

How incredibly frustrating for you! This is such a difficult situation. I'm thinking of you!
I'm also glad to know that we are neighbors in So Cal. It will be a lot of fun getting together with our kids. We're still waiting for our referral, but we have hope!

Jill said...

CIS (O*&()&# I am so sorry.

James and Melissa said...

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope they get this resolved very soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I have had some dark days too but there is always a little light near the end of the tunnel.

Andrea said...

This is all so hard. Cry if you need to. Try to take care of yourself. Know that others truly understand what you are going through and are thinking of you often.